In the upcoming weekly blogs (did you know that I publish almost every Tuesday?), I will study how each of the four chords can be applied to friendships. Thank you for being curious and vulnerable next to me! The first, “be immaculate with your words,” is conveniently placed as the first chord, because it`s the best place to start. Change begins at home, and if we expect others to treat us with respect and love, we must show love and respect through our words. We need to be aware of what we are trying to communicate and give the world as many positive words as possible. We can apply these principles to the table by bringing our internal dialogue to attention. Are we talking nicely? Often in a yoga class, it`s easy to look around and say, “I can`t do this pose, I shouldn`t even try. I`m too tired, too weak, too fat, too old to do that. Of course, my classmate can do this pose and I can`t. and Blah Blah… In addition, I understand that the words I say to myself, the words I use to describe and characterize my experience of the world, are important. In a way, it`s a lot of pressure, but it`s also motivating to know that I have the freedom to decide to make changes. Language is powerful; It affects our way of thinking, our energy, our perspectives, our perspectives, etc.
We take all this in all friendship. And that`s why Ruiz invites us to be blameless with our words. I am also ready to re-engage on the first agreement and I invite you to accompany me on this journey! The book is based on a series of spiritual beliefs, held by Toltec`s seniors, to help readers transform their lives into a new experience of freedom, happiness and love.  According to the author, everything a man does is based on agreements he has made with himself, with others, with God and with life itself.  In these agreements, we can tell ourselves who they are, how to behave, what is possible and what is impossible.  Some agreements that create individuals may not cause problems, but there are certain arrangements that come from a place of fear and have the power to deplete emotional energy and reduce a person`s self-esteem.  The book states that these self-limiting agreements cause unnecessary suffering.  Ruiz also believes that to find personal joy, one must get rid of socially imposed and fear-based agreements that can unconsciously influence the individual`s behaviour and thinking.  Another fundamental premise of the book suggests that much of the suffering is created and that most people have the ability to transform themselves and the negative thoughts they have about the situations in their lives.
 The author identifies the sources of unhappiness in life and proposes four beneficial agreements that can be concluded with oneself to improve their general state of well-being. By pacting with these four most important chords, an individual is able to dramatically influence the amount of happiness he feels in his life, regardless of external circumstances.  Ruiz explains that this agreement is certainly the most important, but that the most difficult thing is to respect it.  For this agreement, Ruiz first analyzes the word “irreprocible.” The perfectly irreproachable word comes from the Latin word peccatus, which means “sin,” and the term “im” at the beginning of blame is the Latin prefix meaning “without.”